Wednesday, November 10, 2010

Who Is The "Real" Biological Mother of Adopted Embryos???

Here is a older blog post from City Jen's Family Blog:

Sunday, July 26, 2009

Will I be The Biological Mother of my Babies???

I have wondered quite a bit about this as I am carrying babies who were created from genetic material completely different from mine. While "playing" on the internet today- against doctors' orders and husband's-lol- I came across a very interesting blog: The post of complete interest to me was from July 20, 2009. The title is: Women Who give Birth To Egg Donor Babies Are Biological Moms.

Freedom Pharmacy published this great booklet about egg donation -- here an excerpt:

“Perhaps the greatest myth surrounds pregnancy. Many believe the uterus is simply an incubator. Nothing could be further from the truth. The most important aspect of all pregnancies- including egg donation pregnancies- is that as the fetus grows, every cell in the developing body is built out of the pregnant mother’s body. Tissue from her uterine lining will contribute to the formation of the placenta, which will link her and her child. The fetus will use her body’s protein, then she will replace it. The fetus uses her sugars, calcium, nitrates, and fluids, and she will replace them. So, if you think of your dream child as your dream house, the genes provide merely a basic blueprint, the biological mother takes care of all the materials and construction, from the foundation right on up to the light fixtures. So, although her husband’s aunt Sara or the donor’s grandfather may have genetically programmed the shape of the new baby’s earlobe, the earlobe itself is the pregnant woman’s “flesh and blood.” That means the earlobe, along with the baby herself, grew from the recipient’s body. That is why she is the child’s biological mother. That is why this child is her biological child.”

I really like the way this sums it all up!!! The post also discusses the role of nature in a child's development which I found fascinating as well. Please let me know what you think!!!


  1. Jen,

    Thanks so much for posting this. I love it so much I am going to print it for Adam to read some day!

  2. Jen,

    I REALLY love this. As my husband and I go for IVF in February, one thing that haunts me is what to do with the frozen embryos, once we have completed our family. I NEVER could destroy them, or give them to science or anything like that. For some reason, before meeting you, embryo adoption was never even a choice for me. I always felt, somehow, that it would be "giving up" my child, which I would never want to do. The way this is written, kinda calms my heart. The way I think of it is I would start the life or choose to give it a chance and the mother that carries it, completes,finishes and perfects it. How amazing!! Thanks for sharing this!!!!!!!!

  3. Beautiful...mind if I share it on my blog?

  4. I love this!!! Thank you for posting! Sooooo much. I have been a little worried lately that I might feel like "my" baby is really someone else's baby. Like I might feel disconnected. This really makes sense to me and I had never thought of it that way. Thank you!

  5. My husband and I have recently chosen a donor, but have not started the cycle yet. I cannot thank you enough for this post! I've had this constant little whisper that says "yeah, but biologically, it won't be yours", which I could not seem to silence, no matter how much I tried. Finally, I feel that it is gone! Thank you thank you thank you!

  6. I found your site via Google and was instantly drawn to this article. Me and my husband just recently found out about Embryo Adoption, so we've been reading as much as we can on it. Thank you so much for posting this article. It really makes perfect sense. We never thought the main reason for not going through IVF would be a way for us to eventually build our family.